Archive for May, 2010


Yesterday the fun thing was I went back to bed and slept in. Lately I’m just letting myself have the sleep I need and not feeling guilty about it. I notice I am definitely happier when I get a lot of sleep. And I’m not saying when I get “enough” sleep. 6 hours is “enough” sleep, but it doesn’t make me happy. It takes 8 – 10 hours of sleep to make me feel really good. I know it’s unheard of and seems almost immoral, but what am I missing – 2 hours on facebook?


Have to have fun to be happy

In my effort to be happy, I’ve created some new guidelines. I have to have fun at least once a day, and I have to go out and do something fun at least once/week. So this weekend I actually went to 2 parties! Friday night we went to Tahir’s birthday party at White Slab Palace. We got there around 2 am and stayed till closing at 4. The party was in the back room complete with DJs playing Al Green, a smoke machine and a disco ball.

Something about being happy attracts good fortune. The doorman Calvin bought me a shot of Absolut marinated in corriander and rootbeer. And then someone else bought one for Joseph. And then we bought one for Tahir and we danced our asses off.

Tahir is a cool cat. He can tell you some interesting things – like if there were more mentions of Adidas or Nike in hip hip songs between 1979 and 2010. Turns out Nike had more mentions (390 – 179) but on the question of which brand is more hip hop – Pharoahemonch says that Adidas got 90% of the vote.

Let’s hug it out

That was a t-shirt I saw today that made me laugh.

Yesterday I did paperwork. Surprisingly paperwork can make you happy. I cleared almost all the papers off my copy machine.  Then I balanced my checkbook. Hooray, there was some money there! Having confirmed that I was not on the verge of economic catastrophe I ordered 3 books that I’ve been wanting. The trilogy on Martin Luther King Jr. by Taylor Branch. I ordered from Powell’s (a real book store) instead of being lazy and ordering from Amazon. That made me feel good, and I was rewarded by getting all 3 books including fast shipping for around $40. Life is good.

Also we are going to London, so if you know any cool, beautiful or fun places to go there, please post them in the comments!

Running by the lake

Went running by the lake last night. The sky was a stunning mix of blacks, and blues with clouds making big sweeps. The moon was a perfect crescent.  (I didn’t take a photo -but this is kind of what it looked like, except for the shape of the moon.) Twenty minutes is all it takes to feel refreshed. The trees were big and comforting and I was thinking about how trees have such a strong presence in the Tolkein books. They have deep spirits and complex personalities, and then I was thinking about how the characters in books you read as a kid stay with you your whole life, like old friends that come back now and then. The trees in his books feel  like that to me.

Watched a couple  Daily Show episodes. They’re on break so I watched one from 5/6 – where he talks about anti-gay congressman George Alan Rekers’ jaunt through Europe with a rentboy. And also this one about teaching the gospel of Christ through Mixed Martial Arts.

The purpose of life is to be happy

From His Holiness The Dalai Lama

I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy.  From the moment of birth, every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering…From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment.  I don’t know whether the universe, with its countless galaxies, stars and planets, has a deeper meaning or not, but at the very least, it is clear that we humans who live on this earth face the task of making a happy life for ourselves.  Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness.

How to achieve happiness

From my own limited experience I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion.

The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life…If you have a sincere and open heart, you naturally feel self- worth and confidence…

I try to treat whoever I meet as an old friend. This gives me a genuine feeling of happiness.  It is the practice of compassion.